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Question: My
husband exhibits a significant emotional detachment. Over the course of our
eleven-year marriage, he has only visited home a handful of times, and during
these visits, his presence feels more like that of a stranger. He shows no
interest in the children, nor engages in meaningful conversations with me.
Aside from occasional quarrels, he seems eager to leave, as if he feels more at
home abroad than here. Even when he does stay for short periods, his thoughts
are elsewhere, and he neglects both the children and the household
responsibilities. During his most recent visit, after four years of absence, he
stayed for only two weeks before departing again, and even then, he opted to
stay in a rented room away from home. His behavior suggests a profound
disconnection, as though we hold no value in his life. This situation has
caused me great distress, especially as I find myself without any support. I
married him at the age of fifteen, while he was in his forties. For over a
decade, I have been raising our eight children on my own, and my husband
remains emotionally absent. I expressed my inability to manage everything on my
own, and my need for support, only to be met with a callous response suggesting
I either find employment or marry someone else. He offered to hire someone to
manage the household, leaving me to worry about nothing. Since then, my health
has declined, and I find myself weighed down by sorrow. I feel utterly alone.
Could you suggest a remedy to foster love and compassion in his heart? He is
easily swayed by others and often acts according to their guidance, regardless
of its wisdom. In front of others, he portrays himself as virtuous, while
casting me in a negative light. This has left me powerless and unable to make
any meaningful changes in our relationship. I feel as though I am an orphan,
unsupported and forsaken. If I had someone to rely on, perhaps my husband's
treatment of me would be different. He should learn to value both himself and
others. Furthermore, I am at a loss as to why those I treat with kindness end
up becoming my adversaries. The constant disruptions at home only add to my
distress, leaving me without peace in either my home or elsewhere.
Answer: After
the passage of midnight, perform ablution and sit on the prayer mat. Recite
Salawat (Darood Sharif) one hundred times, followed by "Ya Hayyu Ya
Qayyum" one hundred times. Then, lie down on your prayer mat with your
eyes closed, mentally visualizing a transparent glass jar, placed from your
neck to your navel. Imagine this jar filled with radiant light. As the light
becomes visible, perceive your husband within this jar, similar to how fish are
seen swimming inside a transparent container. Engage in this visualization
practice consistently for a period of three to four weeks. Over time, you will
observe that your husband's demeanor begins to align with yours, fostering a
more harmonious and empathetic connection.
Khwaja Shamsuddin Azeemi
Nearly three decades ago, the esteemed spiritual scholar and blessed guide, Khwaja Shamsuddin Azeemi (R.A), inaugurated a mission of public service with the objective of liberating humanity from afflictions, psychological distress, and physical ailments. For ten years, he remained in contemplative retreat, silently advancing this sacred commitment to the service of creation (khidmat-e-khalq). As the hearts of the people began turning toward him, he employed the medium of mass communication. In 1969, this initiative was formally introduced to the public through newspapers and spiritual journals. According to conservative estimates, through written correspondence and face-to-face interaction—particularly via national publications and the Roohani Digest—Hazrat Azeemi has extended spiritual guidance and healing to over 1.4 million men and women, addressing intricate personal crises and intractable medical conditions. Today, it is not uncommon that wherever a few individuals gather, and a seemingly insoluble dilemma or incurable illness is mentioned, someone inevitably suggests: “Establish contact with Azeemi Sahib—the matter will be resolved.”
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