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Aamir aik baar Hazrat umar se milnay
ke liye un ke ghar gaye to dekha Hazrat umar letey hue hain aur bachay un ke
seenay par charrhey hue khail rahay hain. Un ko yeh baat bohat giran guzri.
Ameer al-momineen ne un ki peshani par
bil dekh kar farmaya.’‘ aap apne bachon ke sath kaisa bartao karte hain
?’‘
Aamir ne kaha.’‘ jab mein ghar
mein daakhil hota hon to ghar walon par saktah taari ho jata hai aur sab dam
bakhud ho jatay hain.’‘Hazrat umar ne barray soaz ke sath farmaya.’‘
aamir ! Ummat Muhammadiya s.a.w ka farzand hotay hue tum nahi jantay ke
musalman ko apne ghar walon ke sath kis terhan narmi aur mohabbat ka sulooq
karna chahiye !’‘
Maa par bachay ka yeh haq hota hai ke
usay doodh pilaya jaye. Quran pak ne maa ka yahi ahsaan yaad dila kar maa ke
sath ghair mamooli husn sulooq ki takeed ki hai. Bacha no mahinay tak maa ke
khoon se pait mein parwarish paata hai. Is ka wazeh matlab yeh hai ke bachay
wohi zehen aur wohi khayalat apnatay hain jo maa ke dimagh mein gardish karte
rehtay hain. Maa ka farz yeh hai ke woh bachay ko apne doodh ke aik aik qatray
ke sath Allah aur is ke Rasool Allah s.a.w ke tarz amal ka sabaq deti rahay. Doodh
ka har ghoont ke sath Nabi bar haq s.a.w ka ishhq aur deen ki mohabbat bhi is
ke saraapaa mein is terhan undail day ke qalb o rooh mein Allah ki azmat aur Rasool
Allah s.a.w ki mohabbat rich bas jaye. Is khush gawaar fareeza ko injaam day
kar jo rohani sukoon o suroor haasil hota hai is ka andaza un hi maaon ko hota
hai jo apne bachon ki parwarish haq ke sath karti hain.
Bachon ko darane se parhaiz karna chahiye
kyunkay ibtidayi umar ka yeh dar saari zindagi par muheet hojata hai aur aisay
bachay zindagi mein koi bara karnaama injaam dainay ke laiq nahi rehtay. Aulaad
ko baat baat par dantnay, jhirakhnay aur bُra bhala kehnay se bachay khauf zada ho jatay
hain. Is ke bar aks shafqat o mohabbat aur narmi ke bartao se aulaad ke andar
itaat o farmabardari ke jazbaat nashonuma pa kar aulaad ko basaadt karte hain.
Aulaad walidain ki kamar ki take
burhapay ka sahara aur khandan ka waqar hai aur poori noo insaan ka sarmaya hai.
Maa baap ko wujood aulaad ke liye saya
figan aasman ki terhan hai. Agar woh kuch mutalba karen to un ko khoob degiye
woh dil giriftaa hon to un ka gham ghalat kijiyej. Un par na qabil bardasht
boojh nah baniye ke woh aap ki mout ki tamanna karen aur aap ke qurb ko doori
se badal den.
Apne bachon ko hasb muratib gaud mein
lijiye, pyar kijiyej, shafqat se un ke sir par haath pheriye. Tund khoo aur
sakht geer maa baap se bachay ibtida sehem jatay hain aur phir nafrat karne
lagtay hain. Walehana jazba mohabbat se un ke andar khud itmadi peda hoti hai
aur un ki fitri nashonuma par khush gawaar asraat muratab hotay hain.
Aulaad ko zaya nah kijiyej, aulaad ko apne
oopar boojh nah samjhiye. Muashi tangi ki wajah se kabhi nah sochye ke yeh
aulaad ki wajah se hai. Khaaliq kaayenaat ka farmaan hai :
‘‘ Aur apni aulaad ko
fiqr o faqa ke khauf se qatal nah karo. Hum un ko bhi rizaq deingay aur hum
tumhe bhi rizaq day rahay hain.’‘
Darasal saleh aulaad hi aap ke baad
aap ki tehzibi riwayaat, deeni talemaat aur pegham toheed ko zindah rakhnay ka
zareya hai aur momin naik aulaad ki aarzoyeen isi liye karta hai ke woh is ke
baad Rasool Allah s.a.w ke pegham ko
zindah rakhay gi.
Doosron ke samnay apne bachon ke aib
bayan nah kijiyej aur nah kisi ke samnay un ko sharminda kijiyej. Un ki izzat e
nafs ke aap muhafiz hain.
Bachon ke samnay un ki islaah se mayoosi ka
izhaar bachon mein ehsas kamtaree peda kar deta hai ya phir un ke andar zid aur
gussa bhar jata hai ke jab hum kharab aur na qabil islaah hain to kharab ho kar
hi deikhein ge. Bachay kahaniyan sun kar bohat khush hotay hain aur inhen jo
kuch sunaya jata hai woh un ke hafzay mein mehfooz ho jata hai. Nihayat pyar
aur ansiyat ke sath inhen nabiyo ke qissay, sualeheen ki kahaniyan, sahaba
karaam ki zindagi ke waqeat aur mujahideen islam ke kaarnamay ihtimaam ke sath sunaiye
aur un se sniye bhi. Hazaar msrofiton ke bawajood un ke liye waqt nikaliye. Jab
bachay khush hon inhen banaiye ke Rasool Allah s.a.w bachon se walehana mohabbat karte thay.
Bachon ko dekh kar Huzoor pur Noor s.a.w ka chehra gulnar ho jata tha.
Aik martaba hamaray pyare Nabi s.a.w Hazrat
husn ko pyar kar rahay thay. Aik budu ko yeh dekh kar taajjub hua to is ne
kaha.’‘Ya Rasool Allah s.a.w !
Aap bhi bachon ko pyar karte hain.
Mere das bachay hain lekin mein ne kabhi kisi ko pyar nahi kya.’‘ Rehmat Lilallameen ke chehra mubarak par nagwari zahir hui aur farmaya.’‘
Agar Khuda ne tumahray dil se rehmat o shafqat ko nikaal diya hai to mein kya
kar sakta hon.’‘
be ja laad pyar se bachay ziddi aur khud sir ban
jatay hain. Har ja o be ja zid poori karne ki bajaye tahammul aur burdbaari ke
sath koshish kijiyej. Yeh aadat khatam ho jaye gi.
Allah Taala ne karakht aawaz ko
napasand kya hai. Bachon ke samnay cheekiye chillaiye nahi kyunkay bachay yeh
samajhney lagtay hain ke gala phaar kar zor se bolna bhi koi qabil tareef kaam
hai. Narmi, khush gftari aur dheemay lehjey mein maa baap jab baat karte hain
to bachon ka lehja khud bakhud naram aur sheree ho jata hai.
Aadat dalye ke bachay apna kaam panay
haath se karen. Rokron ka sahara bachon ko kaahil, sust aur apahaj bana deta
hai. Un ke andar zindagi ke garam o sard halaat se nabard aazma honay ki himmat
nahi rehti. Aisay bachay jafakash aur mehnat kosh nahi hotay.
Kabhi kabhi apne bachon ke haath se
ghareebon aur msakin ko khana, paisa aur kapra waghera bhi dilwaiye taa ke un
ke andar ghareebon ke sath sulooq, sakhavat o khairaat ka jazba peda ho. Sath
baith kar khana khaiye. Un ke mun mein niwalay dijiye. Un se bhi k_hye ke woh apne
behan bhaiyon ko apne haath se khilain. Is amal se haqooq al ibad ka ehsas aur
insaaf ke taqazay apni poori ranaiyon ke sath qalib insaan mein numoo paate
hain.
Jaidaad mein larki ka hissa poori dayanat daari
aur ihtimaam ke sath duniya Khuda ne farz kya hai. Is mein apni taraf se kami
beshi karne ka kisi ko ikhtiyar nahi. Larki ka hissa dainay mein heela joi se
kaam lena khayanat hai aur Allah ke deen ki tauheen karna hai.
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